Introduction to Finding your own style. First step on finding your style.
I wear a lot of hats!! I absolutely love hats, from fur to casual to fishing to glam! Yes, Marie Kondo I feel ‘joy’ for all of them and that is why I keep them. They are organized and serve a purpose to keep the sun out of my face and help me achieve my complete daily ‘look’. I do care how they look because I love my own style.
With my own style it’s a balance between function and fashion. With most objects I own I ask myself, why do I need this object and do I love it? There are several reasons I would love it, mostly because of where I picked it up, how it makes me feel or simply because it enhances my style.
When I buy a new object, it first needs to serve a function and secondly, it must be attractive. I will admit, I’m like most people and am attracted to beautiful things. Now remember, first lesson to finding your own style is, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.
Once I learned this lesson, I was empowered to become my true self. I started to accept my inner voice and listen to what I liked. I was able to find power in my own clothing choices. I stopped looking at what others were wearing and didn’t try to conform myself to fit into mainstream fashion. It was like I broke loose from my attachment of trying to fit in. I didn’t have to wear cookie cutter outfits anymore and was able to created my own outfits from objects I loved.
If you only wear what ‘you’ love, then you will get a new attitude of, ‘I’m owning what you wear’. Meaning you don’t care what others are thinking or saying about what you’re wearing. This new freedom will empower you to ‘finding your style’.
If you are hoping to ‘finding your style’ I’d love to share with you how I found mine. Finding your own style is a process of realizations, reflections, surrenders and empowerment. Over the next couple of posts I will walk you through ‘finding your own style’.
Yes, start purging your closet because it does start with feeling ‘joy’ for each object in your closet. If you’re overwhelmed by this idea, start by watching Marie Kondo’s inspiring Netflix series ‘Tiding Up’! Remember, it’s one step at a time! Not only will you find your style, you might just find yourself!
If you’re sick of looking at your run down, outdated or just boring room in your home, I’m with you. I have the tendency to put away items seasonly and add some fresh items of color and texture. Styles change so I like to add a new item or two to my room in addition to seasonal flowers. I love real stems but I also used faux. If used correctly, they can have a fresh and great impact on your room.
To freshen a dull room:
- Fill holes & paint them in for a cohesive complete room
- If you want to change out your paint color then do it-you won’t regret it
- Get rid off all clutter (I can’t stress enough-most important)- items you don’t like, use or are functional in your room
- Consider rearranging your furniture
- Add new throw pillow and blankets for color and texture
- Update family pictures in your frames
- Add seasonal flowers & accessories (such a shells, drift wood, or any other collections)
- Change out your lighting-lamp shades and or your over head lighting could be cleaned or updated
This before and after has a lot of changes but some simple ones any body could do.
- Paint made a big difference in this living room
- Painting the mantel softened the wall
- Mirror and art swapped out
- Larger rug to create a bigger feeling room
- If you don’t have it in your budget to change your chairs and sofas, consider reapolsetry and arrangement
If you find this to be all too much, then get help. Set a price & stick within that range to change your dull room to a space that makes you happy. There isn’t anything better than loving the space you live in.
I love working with people already own. That way it’s more affordable and may take some imagination and leg work but in the long run you’d be surprised at how things can be transformed.
When I do anything, and I mean any thing, I think about all the details. Honestly, it’s how I function in my life. From my house, to planning a party, working with clients, and especially what I wear, I do think about every tiny detail. I’m in my head saying, ‘nope that’s not right’ or ‘oh that’s it’, ‘ok now that changes this’…so everything becomes a process.
What I know is that I’m really good at taking into account all the details. I don’t look at most rooms as being ‘done’ as our styles are constantly changing and evolving. I do the same process with my outfits. I don’t usually wear the same outfit in the same way. I like to mix it up to stay on trend, for fun and fitting into the occasion.
Here is my example of taking ‘the details’ into account.
A Denim & Diamond Fundraiser
Layered sparkly necklaces
Silver skirt becomes a neutral
Nude heels to elongate
Top had embellishments but more for me!
Made my own belt and held together with a pin
Hair needed sparkle as well
DIY gold nails
My brightest clutch
DKNY denim topped off the look
This outfit was a big success at the event and I got a lot of attention for taking some chances and paying attention to the details.
I promise you if you pay attention and take time with how you’re wearing clothing and go the extra mile with your accessories and hair, you’ll look fabulous and enjoy yourself so much more!! Go ahead, what are you waiting for, start working it girl!