Style finder 2

Step two to finding your own style. Closet clean out.

Is your closet packed? I go through times when my closet is swallowing me up and I can’t stand it anymore. That’s when I take a step back and start the purging process. Going through everything all at once is too big of a task for me, so I purge often.

The second step to finding your style is, ‘only wear and keep items that you love’. Words that I’ve heard Marie Kondo say over and over! There are several reasons you may love an item.

We make priceless memories wearing our clothing and have attachments to where they came from. Clothing helps to enhance our lives and we can become attached to them. I do love some items more than others and find myself wearing the same things over and over. Sometimes 2/3 of my clothes are ignored. This is definitely due to the season we’re in and activities I’m doing.

There are some exceptions to the rule ‘keep what you love’. If you have something that you’ve had forever, that doesn’t mean you should keep it. Think about if you’re still using it and if not, why not? Also, why are you attached to it? For example, I had a leather skirt that I used to wear in High School and I loved it because it was pretty, it cost me a lot of buy at the time and I have great memories wearing it. But it no longer fits and I’m never going to wear it again. I parted with it, even though I loved it.

All your clothing should fit you. Yes, try everything on only keep items that flatter your body. I just tried on all my shorts and was upset that a pair of shorts I bought two years ago didn’t flatter me anymore. Our bodies are always changing and what we think might still look good, often doesn’t. Don’t beat yourself up over it, just let it go and continue to focus on your task.

If your item doesn’t fit and you still love it the big question I ask myself is, “if something happened to me, would my family want this”? Pretty telling that my answer is usually, no. It’s gotta go. No worries because you will be left with plenty of items that fit and flatter you!

The idea of having a closet full of items you love is about wearing your clothing with confidence. If your clothes flatter your body and you love them, then you’ll love making great outfits everyday.

Remember Step 1 to finding your style is, ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’. By purging your clothing and only keeping what you love, you’ll wear outfits with confidence, feel beautiful and be yourself.

As daunting as it may seem, get busy and purge, purge, purge. You’ll be surprised at how good you’ll feel!

What is your style?

Introduction to Finding your own style. First step on finding your style.

I wear a lot of hats!!  I absolutely love hats, from fur to casual to fishing to glam! Yes, Marie Kondo I feel ‘joy’ for all of them and that is why I keep them.  They are organized and serve a purpose to keep the sun out of my face and help me achieve my complete daily ‘look’.  I do care how they look because I love my own style.

With my own style it’s a balance between function and fashion.  With most objects I own I ask myself, why do I need this object and do I love it?  There are several reasons I would love it, mostly because of where I picked it up, how it makes me feel or simply because it enhances my style.

When I buy a new object, it first needs to serve a function and secondly, it must be attractive.  I will admit, I’m like most people and am attracted to beautiful things.  Now remember, first lesson to finding your own style is, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.

Once I learned this lesson, I was empowered to become my true self. I started to accept my inner voice and listen to what I liked. I was able to find power in my own clothing choices. I stopped looking at what others were wearing and didn’t try to conform myself to fit into mainstream fashion. It was like I broke loose from my attachment of trying to fit in. I didn’t have to wear cookie cutter outfits anymore and was able to created my own outfits from objects I loved.

If you wear what ‘you’ love, then you will have an attitude of, ‘I’m owning what I wear’.  Meaning you don’t care what others are thinking or saying about your clothing. This new freedom will empower you to ‘find your style’.

If you hope to ‘find your style’ I’d love to share with you how I found mine.  Finding your own style is a process of realizations, reflections, surrenders and empowerment.  Over the next couple of posts I will walk you through ‘finding your own style’.

Yes, start purging your closet because it does start with feeling ‘joy’ for each object in your closet.  If you’re overwhelmed by this idea, start by watching Marie Kondo’s inspiring Netflix series ‘Tiding Up’!  Remember, it’s one step at a time!  Not only will you find your style, you might just find yourself!

What to wear now

Items to wear this Fall are:

Over the knee boots

Sneakers

Oversized sweaters

Wine colored anything

Off the shoulder sweaters

Athletic hoodies & pants

Plaid

Oversized scarves

Ruffles

Velvet

Leather

Sweater dress’

Monochromatic top and pants or dress and duster

Tan pants

Pastel outfit with gray or black boots

Faux Fur

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Fall Style

Fall is when we pile on the layers.  When shopping for Fall clothing,  take into account your Basics and the Trends.  Basics are those staples that you already own: jeans, leggings, sweaters, scarves, button downs, boots and coats.  Trends are items that make your basics more specific: what kind of cuts, and popular colors & fabrics found on the runway.  Some items are timeless and will never change, the classics:  black leggings, jean shirts, trench coats, white button downs, ballerina flats and boots.  Rule of thumb, stick with the basics, always have the classics and add a couple trendy items.  Most trends come around sooner or later, so if you buy an expensive trendy item, hold on to it!

FALL COLORS:

Wine or Claret

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Burnt Orange

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Mustard

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Dark Green

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Raisin

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Trends this Fall

Sneakers with any outfit

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Off the shoulder

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Ripped jeans

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Over the knee boots

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Stripes

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You can always wear: jean jackets, chunky sweaters, black turtle necks, tan trench coats & boots!  Happy Fall Dressing

 

Spring Layers

Spring has arrived and I love the lighter layers paired with open toed shoes and light colors.  It’s all so refreshing, careless and cool.  Stripes never looked so good with this seasons hottest shoe, a sporty sneaker.  Matchy matchy is out- add a shoe with color for that added interest.  Dig out those shorts as they go with everything from dressy to tomboy casual.  The key is the balance of the outfit.  If you have baggy shorts then wear a tighter tank with a loose white blouse button up and eye catching sandals.  We all know spring temps are unpredictable so go with lighter layers that you can wrap around your waist or shoulders.  Don’t forget to lighten your make up and hair can be more casual and fun!

Now this is a garden display like none other!
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effortless color..
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oversized flannel with gladiator sandals, so cute for summer or early fall
We have been waiting for you, Spring, with open arms. Welcome. Please stay as long as you’d like. I can’t wait until you’ve decorated #CentralPark to look like this picture. Ah…..the beauty.

SPRING trends to wear

7 Spring 2015 Fashion Trends You Should Follow - Gingham
Gingham
30 Stylish Cardigan Outfits For Girls | http://fashion.ekstrax.com/2014/02/stylish-cardigan-outfits-for-girls.html
Boho
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Gogger pants
strappy sandals
Stripes
London Fashion Week Street Style Spring 2015 - London Street Style - Harper's BAZAAR
Kimono scarf
The Top 8 Shoe Trends For Spring 2015: Paging all shoe-lovers — and that's all of us, right?
Flatforms
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White
7 Spring 2015 Fashion Trends You Should Follow YELLOW
Yellow
Gucci, Spring 2015. Gimme.
Thicker heels & Snake skin
Ulla Johnson Spring 2015 Ready-to-Wear - Collection - Gallery - Look 1 - Style.com
light blue
2015 Floral Pants For Women - Street Style Trends (19)

Floral print

The Playlist: Psychadelic spring staples to get into the groove!
Lace
A rainbow of pastel bags for spring!!! Repin to remember all of these beautiful options! xoxo Beautylove Aprons

Pastels

This reminds me of something my mother-in-law would wear! Very lounge but still cool.
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photo credit: Pinterest

Sneaker Ball

Attending fundraisers is always a pleasure.  I really enjoy supporting local causes and especially when they benefit children.  There is nothing more heartwarming than knowing you can do something to make a difference in a child’s life.

The Sneaker Ball was a benefit to raise money for Jaden’s Ladder and their “Ballers to Scholars” Program.  This ball took place at the beautiful Empire Restaurant & Lounge in Boston.

This time of the year we have plenty of snow and temperatures ranging in the 40’s and lower in the evening.  So deciding what to wear wasn’t hard, but keeping warm was!!  You know me, I’ll practically wear anything for fashion, so I wore my shorts!

When wearing sneakers I don’t normally think of dresses, but plenty of ladies rocked this look.  I like to be sporty when I can, so shorts and a tank worked perfectly with my wedge sneakers!

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Shorts by BASIX BLACK LABEL, sneakers by bucco, Leather coat by , purse by MMS, tank by Gap, Hair by Salon Sabeha, Skincare by MyBody, Balloon by Shop Frilloon.

The evening was a huge success!  The event was well attended, in the chic’s place, gorgeous food, great dj, stunning decor and us in our sneakers!

 

At this age, know how to dress

Once I hit 40 I felt the need to ‘think’ about the way I looked at my wardrobe.  I want to dress appropriate for my age, but still feel young and can look fashionable, which can be done at any age.

Looking at my clothing I ask:

~ Is the quality of my clothing good?  No rips, holes, stains or faded clothing acceptable at this age.

~ Are my pieces of clothing enhancing my body?  Not too long or short, tight or big but giving me the right curves and hiding all the right things.

~ Do I have the right undergarments?  No panty lines are allowed and bras must be enhancing.

~ Do my shoes look fresh?  There is nothing worse than scuffed or dirty shoes on a great outfit.  I also make sure I have several different types of shoes with various heel size, color and style.

~ Do I have the right handbags?  Don’t skimp on a great bag.  You will be surprised at how many times you’ll use it if it’s a high end bag.  Less expensive bags are considered trendy and basically disposable.

~ Do I have a variety of accessories?  Gold, silver, chains, charms, chain link, watches, earning and trendy jewelry.

Without a doubt, I must have hair, nails and skin that look as good as possible.  I wash my face twice a day, hair every other and if I don’t have a fresh manicure then I keep my nails short and clean.

I care about my body so I do work out 3-5 times a week and eat clean as possible and drink plenty of liquids.  I started drinking warm water with lemon in the morning to jump start my digestive system, then coffee and light but mostly protein breakfast, tons of fruit and salads.

I do get between 7-9 hours of sleep every night and keep a pretty tight schedule during the day.

What I’ve found is that the key to knowing how to dress is balancing the outfit.  If you have on a flare skirt then wear a tank top or if my shirt is short then I wear a blazer to cover up.  When I wear leggings I wear a simple shirt then a longer sweater or blazer to cover up a little bit.

Right now I’m into wearing silk, blazers, layering and dressing in monochrome with one pop of color.

If you’re going to get dressed, why not do it better as you get older.  Every year work a little harder on something that you could do better.  It all becomes a habit and then the next thing you know you’ll look as good as you can!

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Working your clothing into Fall

If you’re like me then your addicted to your summer fav’s, but as the weather gets cooler you can still wear some items.  Just edit your looks by adding and layering clothing to your summer outfits.

Shorts~ keep wearing them.  Instead of a tank, wear a T and add a sweater or blazer.

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Fall fashion. Normally I don't like tights with shorts, but this is too cute!


Green shorts outfit. I like the big necklace and the jacket paired with basics I already have.
Sundresses~ ditch the sandals and add boots and layer with a blouse, jacket or sweater.
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i could totally rock this.. with tall brown boots or flats for the pontoon boat. Get here now summer!
Make a pretty sundress a casual staple with a denim jacket and a pair of perfect Summer sandals.
Crop tops- For those of us who wouldn’t dare try this trend, now it’s our time! As we can layer and cover up but still make that statement!

Kat Graham, love her outfit
22 Beautiful Girls in Their Favorite Crop Tops - Fashion Diva Design
Skirts- stockings and socks with boots or pumps!
Classic black skirt outfit idea for spring 2014, loose sweater with little flared black skirt
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Denim~ if you love wearing your jeans with tanks and sandals or flip flops, just switch out the shoes for loafers or ankle boots and layer up your tops.

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I love her outfit ---White sweater, ripped jeans, boots, chunky-knit taupe infinity scarf
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White T-shirt~ keep wearing them!  There’s nothing more effortless than a white T!
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So long Summer, hello Fall.<3 Can't wait for them long cold nights, sweater days, playing with leaves, the beautiful scenery of the leaves changing color, hot chocolate and spending it all with the ones you love(:!!
Photo credit~ Pinterest

Steps to getting dressed for a special event

If you want to stand out at an event, you must prepare well in advance to look appropriate and as beautiful as you can be.

  • 6-8 weeks before an event I start looking at dresses on line and I may even order one or two.  I enjoy shopping at sites that offer free shipping and returns.  Sometimes I’ll find a dress locally, but I give myself plenty of time for altering.  I like seeing what is trending and find inspiration on various sites.  It may be a dress length, color, cut or certain style that I decide to go with.  Once I decide what I want my “wow” piece to be, then I get focused.  For example, my last event I decided to wear fur and I wanted that to be my ‘wow’ piece so I decided to find a simple dress that wouldn’t take away for the fur.  Then the shoes were just as interesting but the jewelry was simple.  To see the fur, I needed my hair up, but wanted it to have an Old Hollywood feel.  Other times I want to dress color to be the ‘wow’ factor.  Then I keep the shoes neutral.
  • 4-5 weeks I make sure I’ve thought about my ‘vision’ of what I want the rest of the outfit to consist of.  I order shoes and jewelry with plenty of time for returns and reordering.
  • 4 weeks make sure you have hair and nail appointments set up for a couple of days before and a hair appointment on the day of your event.
  •  2 weeks before I nail down an inspirational hair photo.  I make sure I have the right handbag and coat to wear.
  • 1 week before I may attention to my body, face and teeth.  I make sure that I watch my sugar intake and regularly hit the gym.  I make sure that my face is kept clean and use my Clarisonic every other day.  I use Super Smile, which is a teeth whitening system.
  • 3-1 day before I make sure I get a fresh hair color, cut, eyebrow wax and toes and fingernails polished.   Also, steam your dress and make sure you have everything you may need, like padding for your heels, appropriate undergarments, double stick tape, and your lipstick.
  • Day of the event I I limit my water intake to avoid bloating.  In place of water I drink cranberry and coconut water.  I make sure I eat a big breakfast and protein filled lunch and plenty of snacking before I attend the event.
  • I shower making sure I wash my face and shave my legs and around 5 hours before the event I get my hair done.
  • 2 hours before we need to leave, I put my make up on.  I often have thought about the style of my face…do I go for a colorful eye, smokey eye or bold lipstick.  Decide what you want to enhance and make sure you’ve found colors that are trending and enhance your dress.  For example, when I wore a bright yellow dress I decided to go with bright pink lips and simple eye make up.  With the latest brown dress I went for a bronzed face.
  • 1 hour before I get dressed, pack my purse, brush my teeth and give myself time to snap a few photo before leaving.

If you follow this timeline or make your own, you’ll be sure to have a cohesive and polished look for any special event.

 

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