Style finder 2

Step two to finding your own style. Closet clean out.

Is your closet packed? I go through times when my closet is swallowing me up and I can’t stand it anymore. That’s when I take a step back and start the purging process. Going through everything all at once is too big of a task for me, so I purge often.

The second step to finding your style is, ‘only wear and keep items that you love’. Words that I’ve heard Marie Kondo say over and over! There are several reasons you may love an item.

We make priceless memories wearing our clothing and have attachments to where they came from. Clothing helps to enhance our lives and we can become attached to them. I do love some items more than others and find myself wearing the same things over and over. Sometimes 2/3 of my clothes are ignored. This is definitely due to the season we’re in and activities I’m doing.

There are some exceptions to the rule ‘keep what you love’. If you have something that you’ve had forever, that doesn’t mean you should keep it. Think about if you’re still using it and if not, why not? Also, why are you attached to it? For example, I had a leather skirt that I used to wear in High School and I loved it because it was pretty, it cost me a lot of buy at the time and I have great memories wearing it. But it no longer fits and I’m never going to wear it again. I parted with it, even though I loved it.

All your clothing should fit you. Yes, try everything on only keep items that flatter your body. I just tried on all my shorts and was upset that a pair of shorts I bought two years ago didn’t flatter me anymore. Our bodies are always changing and what we think might still look good, often doesn’t. Don’t beat yourself up over it, just let it go and continue to focus on your task.

If your item doesn’t fit and you still love it the big question I ask myself is, “if something happened to me, would my family want this”? Pretty telling that my answer is usually, no. It’s gotta go. No worries because you will be left with plenty of items that fit and flatter you!

The idea of having a closet full of items you love is about wearing your clothing with confidence. If your clothes flatter your body and you love them, then you’ll love making great outfits everyday.

Remember Step 1 to finding your style is, ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’. By purging your clothing and only keeping what you love, you’ll wear outfits with confidence, feel beautiful and be yourself.

As daunting as it may seem, get busy and purge, purge, purge. You’ll be surprised at how good you’ll feel!

What is your style?

Introduction to Finding your own style. First step on finding your style.

I wear a lot of hats!!  I absolutely love hats, from fur to casual to fishing to glam! Yes, Marie Kondo I feel ‘joy’ for all of them and that is why I keep them.  They are organized and serve a purpose to keep the sun out of my face and help me achieve my complete daily ‘look’.  I do care how they look because I love my own style.

With my own style it’s a balance between function and fashion.  With most objects I own I ask myself, why do I need this object and do I love it?  There are several reasons I would love it, mostly because of where I picked it up, how it makes me feel or simply because it enhances my style.

When I buy a new object, it first needs to serve a function and secondly, it must be attractive.  I will admit, I’m like most people and am attracted to beautiful things.  Now remember, first lesson to finding your own style is, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.

Once I learned this lesson, I was empowered to become my true self. I started to accept my inner voice and listen to what I liked. I was able to find power in my own clothing choices. I stopped looking at what others were wearing and didn’t try to conform myself to fit into mainstream fashion. It was like I broke loose from my attachment of trying to fit in. I didn’t have to wear cookie cutter outfits anymore and was able to created my own outfits from objects I loved.

If you wear what ‘you’ love, then you will have an attitude of, ‘I’m owning what I wear’.  Meaning you don’t care what others are thinking or saying about your clothing. This new freedom will empower you to ‘find your style’.

If you hope to ‘find your style’ I’d love to share with you how I found mine.  Finding your own style is a process of realizations, reflections, surrenders and empowerment.  Over the next couple of posts I will walk you through ‘finding your own style’.

Yes, start purging your closet because it does start with feeling ‘joy’ for each object in your closet.  If you’re overwhelmed by this idea, start by watching Marie Kondo’s inspiring Netflix series ‘Tiding Up’!  Remember, it’s one step at a time!  Not only will you find your style, you might just find yourself!

How to Find Your Style

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Our personal style is always changing and hopefully evolving, but if you feel like you don’t know what our style is, what to wear, what looks goods, then you’re normal!

The first thing I do when working with any client is ask questions.  What do you want to look like?  Where are you shopping now?  Once those questions are discussed I’ll have a good idea of what your “style image” is.  Next, it’s time to go through all clothing and accessories.  This is how to determine what is working for your body and towards your “style image” goal.

From there it’s easy to create a check list of items to buy.  The next step is the actual shopping.  Lastly, I coach my clients on how to put their outfits together.

Finding your style like everything else is a process.  My job is to make the process easy, manageable and fun!

Working together normally takes two or three, 2 hour sessions to accomplish the task of ‘finding your style’.  My current “Finding Your Style” session is going for $200 (normally $300).  This is a limited special.  To book your session, e-mail me at d.jacobsohn@zoho.com !